Lately I’ve seen a veritable shit storm of posts about events on various sites. Men Submit has a podcast episode which discusses events, but I thought I’d offer my thoughts and ideas regarding events.
Events are a terrific way to meet like-minded people. Some people have a reason why they cannot attend events. They may have a morals clause in their job, potential custody issues, or another reason why they cannot or do not want to go to an event. This should be respected. Other people may not ever want to participate in person, and are only interested in online interactions. Some of you may be interested in events but feel you are too shy, worried about what you will see or what will happen, or just a bit scared to go to an event.
In episode 17 of the Men Submit podcast we touch on a somewhat contentious topic. We talk about play that is “forced”. That is to say, those activities that are based around a scene in which the submissive has no control. We talk about why this can be such a difficult topic to negotiate and come up with some ideas for how to traverse the murky waters.
In a response to a post on this site, one of our members objected to the idea of chastity. He felt that there are medical studies out there which show that it is unhealthy for a man to have his orgasms regulated, and that this constituted abuse. This post is not to discuss the pros and cons of chastity, but to discuss consent vs. abuse. How do you define if what you are doing is consensual or if it constitutes abuse?
It has recently been expressed to me by my wife that punishment may soon become a part of our flr. I was actually told this the other day when I was informed I was almost punished the night before for my attitude. While being grateful that I narrowly escaped punishment, I was kind of curious what that punishment may have been. She said she hadn’t gotten that far.
I’m excited to announce the launch of … let’s call it a sister site (although it’s probably more like a slightly younger and more annoying brother). The site is called “Shackled Love Stories” and as the title suggests, this site is all about erotica involving dominance and submission.
On this site, you’ll find an interesting assortment of short stories, reviews and excerpts of a wide array of D/s erotica. Femdom will always be the primary focus of this site, although we may eventually widen the scope of the site to include a representative sample of other flavors.
Why launch a new site just for stories?
We decided to launch this site because lots of our members seem to really enjoy writing and reading femdom stories. And why wouldn’t you? Fictional stories fuel fantasies and spark the imagination. I know I loves me a bit of good erotica and AlphaDomme enjoys it too, although I think it’s fair to say she is a bit more selective!
The thing is, Men Submit is a site primarily dedicated to “real life”. That is to say, the site is about how to actually live a FLR, and there’s always been a bit of an odd mismatch on this site between the discussions and questions about real life and the stories our members submit. Stories have a place. They’re important. But we don’t want fictional content to dilute the real life content!
So can I still submit stories and reviews to Men Submit?
For now, yes. Shackled Love Stories is still being developed and we’re getting it set up, so for now you are more than welcome to post your stories to the Men Submit site. BUT, to be sure your story gets the maximum possible readers, we would love it if you would also go to Shackled Love Stories and submit your story there too. :)
What kinds of stuff will I find on Shackled Love Stories?
Stories! You’ll find stories of tough lovin’ from enthusiastic amateur and professional writers. You’ll also find reviews aplenty as well as excerpts from stories to whet your appetite. Down the track if there is interest, I’ll also set up anthologies, reading groups and other story-focused fun. So please come visit shackled love stories, add it to your favorites and post hyour stories on there.
So, head on over to Shackled Love Stories and click on register at the top of the screen and sign up. Then submit any stories you’d like to share! While you are at it, why not sign up to get the newsletter about all things erotica. Thanks!
In episode 16 of the Men Submit podcast, we explore fantasy. Is it ok to have them? Is it important to have them? Are some fantasies right and some wrong? We talk about all these issues and along the way I stumble into asking a very dangerous question, but emerge miraculously unscathed (although the night is still young.) We also answer a question posed by one of our very active members, Domesticsub.
Hi everyone. I just found this blog today and (for once) it seems real with real people unlike some sites and blogs. I have been with my Wife, Z, for 18!years. At the beginning of the relationship I had some understanding that I was submissive but it had been a very belated realisation for me. I had always thought i was an Alpha male, straight etc etc. I will leave my journey for another time but suffice to say I had an elementary understanding of D/s even though I had some experience with pro-Dommes. Z was obviously very assertive and I think that is a lot of what attracted me to Her. We quickly started some B&D experimenting and Z liked to be dominated and to dominated.
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As my wife and I are fairly new to the flr, I sometimes feel a little conflicted. Before we went in this direction, to be honest, I was a compulsive masturbator due to our diminished sex life. I would do it at least once a day, sometimes up to three times. My wife and I would only have sex once every three or four weeks, and I’m not sure which is the cause and which is the effect. I want sex all the time, she is more of the sexual camel variety. Once and she is good for quite awhile. Now that we are in a flr, the rules have been established that I am not allowed to masturbate period, nor am I allowed to initiate sex beyond saying that I’m interested (which is always). This was fine at the beginning, because the sex had really picked up. We were up to a few times a week for awhile. Unfortunately, we are back to once every three or four weeks (or more). I now am in the position of not being able to initiate, not being able to masturbate, and not even really being allowed to complain about either. So, I guess my question is, do I just accept this because it is my wife’s will? I feel like that should be the answer, just immerse myself in my other submissive responsibilities, but every once in awhile, I feel extremely unsatisfied. Any suggestions?