Housekeeping tasks for the submissive
The other day I was visiting a friend (thanks for the fun day ericj9!) and he had a book called ‘How to Satisfy Your Woman Everytime: The Straight Guy’s Guide to Housekeeping and Good Grooming’. I didn’t have time to look through the whole thing, but there was a list in there of Daily/Weekly/Monthly/Annual chores to do. I’m putting the list below.
I suppose that later in the book there is more information on HOW to do the chores, but I didn’t read that. This is of even more interest to me. In our household, BetaBoy does almost all of the chores. This is for several reasons. I work outside of the home and bring in the lion’s share of the income. He works in the home and has more time to do chores. Plus I really dislike cleaning, and he is the submissive after all! I will chip at times. I’m not obsessive about cleaning (though he might think so). If there is a choice between doing the dusting and going out to see a movie, I will usually pick the movie, as long as the dust bunnies are not the size of a small cat. I don’t care how the dishes get loaded into the dishwasher, I only care that they get loaded, cleaned, and unloaded.
BetaBoy does a good job at chores. The house is presentable enough to have people over. I say he does a good job, not great. It seems to me that men just see dirt differently, even the submissive ones. I’m not sure if this is because we don’t teach them when they are kids, or if they are lazy, or if they just see things differently or what. For instance, BetaBoy will leave the kitchen wash cloth and towels until they are so dirty they can stand on their own. He does wipe the kitchen counters. Sort of. Some of them. Some of the time. And BetaBoy – How long has the rotting meat been under the mat for the cat bowls honey? On the plus side, things are largely clean. Laundry is done 95% of the time. On the negative side, he just doesn’t see things. Junk can sit out forever unless I tell him to put it away or get rid of it.
So here is the list of daily/weekly/monthly/annual chores from the book. What would you add? Would you change the frequency of anything? And how do you want these things done by your submissive guy?
Daily Hygene (wouldn’t think you would have to say this)
Hang up and sort clothes for laundry
Tidy floors and surfaces
Clean sink, bath, toilet and restock supplies
Recycle old newspapers (do print newspapers still exist?)
Remove clothing from living area
Empty trash bins (all of them BetaBoy)
Tidy and wash dishes in the evening
Clean kitchen surfaces
Vacuum heavy traffic zones
Water plants and check flowers
Do inventory of fridge and pantry for needed supplies
Buy food and household products
Check supplies of vital items (TP, laundry soap, etc.)
Dust surfaces in main rooms
Change towels and bedlinens (twice a week)
Check, clear, and clean fridge
Wash trash bins
Vacuum all floors
Pay bills and file paperwork
Replace kitchen cloths (2-3 times a week)
Sort out recycling supplies
Clean oven – Ok Quarterly
Dust blinds and shades
Turn mattress – Ok Quarterly
Launder mattress and pillow covers
Give fans a dust
Check fridge and pantry supplies
Tidy videos and books
Clean out attic/garage/basement
De-junk closet, throw out clothes that are out-of-date or don’t fit or have not been worn
Pull out fridge and stove and clean out under and behind them
Deal with tax paperwork
Clean ceilings and walls
Clean duvets and blankets
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